Have you ever wondered what percentage of the population is gay in the UK or even in your local area?
Have you ever noticed that whenever the word sex is mentioned people either become shy or embarrassed, or they think that we need a barrage of smutty jokes and innuendo’s?
Why is it that we can’t just have a good discussion about sex; techniques, sexual orientation, experiences, use of sex toys and sex aids, orgasms, pleasure, satisfaction, masturbation, kinks, etc?
If we sit back objectively and think about it, almost every single one of us was created following a moment of sexual activity, and I use the word “almost” deliberately as there is some movement in that area nowadays because of use of donors and IVF Clinics. However, the majority of us were created in the traditional way.
Why is it that despite sex education in our schools we still have people that don’t fully understand sex?
Why is it that we have laws relating to discrimination and inclusiveness for all gender types, yet stigmas are still present and others won’t explore their sexuality fully?
Why is it that most of us have probably heard about things like a vibrator or dildo but may be terrified to discuss them?
Why is it that many people still won’t buy a sex toy or sex aid?
The purpose of this article is look at how “sexual” we are as a nation and by region. We will table some of those findings and help demystify things so that sex is more understood and used in ways that will increase your sexual awareness and sexual satisfaction levels.
After all, we seem to be able to unlock passion for things such as our favorite football teams, but fall behind when it comes to increasing passion on our sex lives.
Lets take a look at the UK and how things vary depending on where we live.
A snapshot of the middle-aged demographic in the UK
If we look at a 2017 graph from “Statista” that shows us the “Frequency of sexual intercourse amongst middle aged and older people in the United Kingdom (UK)” we see that some very interesting results. For example; only 1.1% say that they are having sex daily, 2.9% say that they are having sex 4-6 times per week, 15.1% say that they are having sex 2-3 times per week (the 2nd highest result after those not having sex at all), 13.9% are at once per week, then a drop to 8.7% for those having sex once every two weeks, and a similar result of 8.4% for those having sex once per month, a jump to 11.5% at less that once per month, only 3.8% for those who only have sex on special occasions, leaving 34% who identified as not currently having sex currently.
The above sample group is significant as they would be a group still having children, through to those with school aged children as well as those in the middle of their careers and therefore a good cross section of the population.
However, we need to take a more in-depth look at other aspects that make up who and how are we identifying our sexuality and sex lives as a country and by region.
What are the latest UK 2019 Sexual Orientation demographics
In 2019 the Office for National Statistics (ONS) published their data and finding into “Experimental statistics on sexual orientation in the UK in 2017 by region, sex, age, marital status, ethnicity and socio-economic classification” with comparisons in movement to the previous Report in 2012.
These are the Key Points from the Office for National Statistics Report:
The proportion of the UK population aged 16 years and over identifying as heterosexual or straight has decreased from 94.4% in 2012 to 93.2% in 2017.
Over the last five years, the proportion of the UK population identifying as lesbian, gay or bisexual (LGB) has increased from 1.5% in 2012 to 2.0% in 2017, although the latest figure is unchanged from 2016.
In 2017, there were an estimated 1.1 million people aged 16 years and over identifying as LGB out of a UK population aged 16 years and over of 52.8 million.
What percentage of men are gay? Males (2.3%) were more likely to identify as LGB than females (1.8%) in 2017.
People aged 16 to 24 years were most likely to identify as LGB in 2017 (4.2% – percentage of lgbt in uk).
Regionally, people in London were most likely to identify as LGB (2.6%), with people in the North East and East of England the least likely (both 1.5%).
69.4% of people who identified themselves as LGB had a marital status of single (never married or in a civil partnership).
Paula Guy, Population Statistics Division, ONS released the following Statement when the Report was published in her capacity as Statistician:
“We estimate that 4.2% of people aged 16 to 24 years identify as lesbian, gay or bisexual, a higher proportion than for other older age groups. Around 7 in 10 of the lesbian, gay or bisexual population are single and have never married or registered a civil partnership. This reflects the younger age structure of this population and that legal unions for same-sex couples are relatively new.”
What percentage of the population is gay – The majority of the UK population identifies as heterosexual or straight, which is to be expected.
Key statistics from the Sexual Orientation ONS data:
In 2017, an estimated 93.2% of the UK population (49.2 million people) identified as heterosexual or straight, continuing the decline from 2012 (94.4%).
What is the percentage of gay population in the uk?
An estimated 2.0% of the population (1.1 million people) identified themselves as lesbian, gay or bisexual (LGB – gay population in uk). As shown in Table 1, this comprised 1.3% identifying as gay or lesbian and 0.7% identifying as bisexual. The percentage in 2017 remains at similar levels to 2016.
A further 0.6% identified as “other”, meaning that they did not consider themselves to fit into the heterosexual or straight, bisexual, gay or lesbian categories. This proportion has increased since 2012 (0.3%). A further 4.1% refused, or did not know how, to identify themselves.
The ONS report showed that a higher proportion of men than women identify as gay or lesbian, with around 1.7% of males identified themselves as gay or lesbian in 2017 compared with 0.9% of females.
Younger people are more likely to identify as lesbian, gay or bisexual than any other age group:
In 2017 in the UK, 16- to 24-year-olds were the age group most likely to identify as lesbian, gay or bisexual (LGB) (4.2%). This figure comprises 1.9% identifying as gay or lesbian and 2.3% identifying as bisexual. The youngest age group was the only age group to have a larger proportion identifying as bisexual than gay or lesbian. The 16- to 24-year-olds were the only age group for which more women (4.7%) identified as LGB than men (3.7%); this was driven by a larger proportion of women identifying as bisexual in this age group than in older age groups.
Londoners are most likely to identify as lesbian, gay or bisexual
With the ONS report showing that in 2017, the percentage of people identifying as lesbian, gay or bisexual (LGB) was similar for England (2.1%), Scotland (1.9%) and Wales (2.0%).
Northern Ireland had the lowest percentage of all UK countries with 1.2% of the household population identifying as lesbian, gay or bisexual.
The North East and East of England both had the lowest proportion (1.5%).
The relatively high proportion of people identifying as LGB in London can be explained by the younger age structure and the diversity of the population. The median age of the population in London was 35.1 years in 2017, compared with 41.9 years in the North East and 41.6 years in the East of England.
The South West was the region that saw the largest change in the percentage identifying as LGB over the last five years, from 1.4% in 2012 to 2.4% in 2017.
In 2017, around 69% of those identifying as lesbian, gay or bisexual (LGB) stated they had never married or entered into a civil partnership. This is a higher percentage than those identifying as heterosexual or straight (34%).
Reasons for this might include:
Those identifying as LGB having a younger age structure than those who identify as heterosexual or straight
Legal unions for same-sex couples having only become available relatively recently
Those who had a legal marital status of single may be in same-sex cohabiting couples. In the UK, 0.5% of families were same-sex cohabiting couple families in 2017.
Ethnic origin was also measured in relation to sexual orientation. In 2017, of those from mixed or multiple ethnic groups, 6% identified themselves as gay or lesbian and bisexual.
The ONS figures showed that managerial and professional occupations were more likely to identify as LGB (2.5%) compared with those in intermediate or routine and manual occupations.
A higher proportion in managerial and professional occupations (1.9%) identify as gay or lesbian but a lower proportion (0.5%) identify as bisexual than other National Statistics Socio-economic Classification (NS-SEC) groups.
How satisfied are we with our sex lives in the UK?
In an article titled “Only a third of UK adults are satisfied with their sex life” shared on the www.relate.org.uk website there are results of a report that highlights that there is a fall in levels of sexual satisfaction in the UK.
In the “Relate” article dated 21 June 2017 they table the following key findings:
- Only a third (34%) of UK adults are satisfied with their sex life*, compared to just under half (45%) in 2015 and 2014 (46%).
- A third (32%) have experienced a sexual problem.
- 1 in 5 (19%) say low libido or differing sex drives is placing a strain on their relationship.
- Almost 1 in 5 men (19%) don’t consider passionately kissing a person other than their partner to be cheating compared to 9% of women.
- Half (47%) of relationship counsellors and sex therapists have seen a rise in relationship problems linked to pornography in the last year.
Charities call on public to talk more openly about sex and to seek help for sexual problems early on.
- Levels of sexual satisfaction in the UK appear to be decreasing with only a third (34%) of UK adults now satisfied with their sex lives, compared to just under half (45%) in 2015 and 2014 (46%). This is according to a new report by leading relationships charities Relate and Relationships Scotland which also found that a third of people (32%) have experienced a sexual problem and that many counsellors have seen a rise in relationship problems linked to porn use. With sexual satisfaction strongly linked to overall relationship quality and health and wellbeing, the charities say that more needs to be done to support the nation’s sex lives.
- The “Let’s talk about sex” report is based on a study of 5,000 UK adults. In total, one-in-five respondents reported that low libido or differing sex drives is placing a strain on their relationship. This is backed up by a survey of relationship support professionals, one-in-four (24%) of whom said they had seen more clients in the last year who were experiencing sex-related problems which were impacting on their relationship. In addition, almost half (47%) of the professionals asked said that they are seeing an increasing number of clients where pornography is causing problems in their relationship.
- A third (32%) of UK adults said they had experienced a sexual problem such as loss of desire or problems keeping or maintaining an erection. Women were more likely to say they had experienced a sexual problem than men (37% compared to 26%). Relationship support practitioners said the top three most common causes of sexual problems for women were lack of emotional intimacy, lack of communication between partners and tiredness. For men however, the professionals said lack of communication between partners, stress and sexual dysfunction were the top three causes.
Relate Counselor and Sex Therapist Denise Knowles said:
“Sex is a big part of couple relationships but when things go wrong, we’re not always great at talking about it. I often see couples sweep sexual problems under the carpet, sometimes turning to the ‘quick fix’ of porn to meet their needs rather than working on their relationship and sex life together. Of course, many couples enjoy watching porn, but the danger can come when people begin choosing it over real life sex with their partner.”
“We’d all benefit from talking more openly about sex and shouldn’t be afraid to seek professional help if we aren’t feeling satisfied or are experiencing a sexual problem. Sex Therapy helps to unpick what isn’t working so you can enjoy a healthy sex life again. The result is often a happier relationship and improved wellbeing. Given the impact that porn is having on relationships, we also need to educate young people about what healthy sexual relationships look like and about the pros and cons of porn.”
There is disagreement over what counts as cheating in a modern relationship
“Let’s talk about sex” shows that a third of respondents (33%) have had a partner cheat on them and a further one-in-ten (nine per cent) said they suspect that a partner has cheated on them but lack proof.
However, now in the digital age, what actually counts as ‘cheating’ has become more difficult to define. The majority of people (62%) didn’t think watching pornography alone was cheating although women were twice as likely as men to say that it was (20% compared to 11%). Almost one-in-five men (19%) didn’t consider passionately kissing a person other than their partner to be cheating compared to 9% of women. Younger people aged 16-24 were much more likely to say that flirting was cheating: 45% thought it was cheating compared to 31% across all age groups.
Whatever people consider to be cheating, only 33% of people thought that a relationship could survive an affair. This was at odds with the opinion of relationship counselors and sex therapists, 93% of whom thought it was possible for a relationship to survive an affair.
How to get more sexual awareness and sexual pleasure into your life
Now that you have read through the findings covered above in Point 2 it is clear to see that here in the United Kingdom, we would like a greater frequency of sex in our lives, and for the sex that we do have we would like more satisfaction than we are currently experiencing.
The percentage of the population who identify as being Gay, Lesbian or Bisexual is increasing and that means that the sexual needs of that demographic need to be catered for as well.
We could be a bit more adventurous in our sex lives, but we also need to be more open with discussing sex with our partner so that both set of needs, wants and desires are being met.
The changing pace of life is so intense, even outside of the hot spot than London obviously is that we need to be mindful of how those need, wants and desires can be met where factors such as time, stress, living arrangements, sexuality are all impacts on our sex lives.
There are so many ways that you can introduce other elements to your sex life that will work wonders such as:
Have some fun with Condoms; they come in all sorts of textures, colours, thicknesses, and even flavours.
A good supply of Lube is a must for everyone; not only does it enhance sensation, but it can stop you or your partner getting hurt during sex, especially if you are using sex toys and sex aids. You can even get flavoured varieties, or products with Aloe Vera, Vitamin E or warming compounds in them.
Sometimes a Libido enhancer can do the trick and there are some great products out in the marketplace such as Indian God Lotion for prolonging erection and maximized sensation and climax. Another awesome product is Spanish Fly Love Drops; just a few drops of this liquid libido enhancer can increase sex drive for men and women.
Fore the more adventurous types Sex Swings, Stands & Sex Machines can add some serious fund and satisfaction into any relationship.
For the men you could experiment with things like Anal Prostate Massagers; there are Cock Sleeve and Ticklers, Penis Pumps, Dildos and Dongs, Fake Vaginas and Pocket Pussy’s, Love Dolls, Cock Rings, Anal Beads and Butt Plugs, and various types of Vibrators and Sex/Love Dolls. Depending on your preferences some of these could be used between you and your partner and in some cases used by just one person, especially as adding something extra to your masturbation time.
For women there is a lot of choice through sex toys and sex aids such as; Anal Beads and Butt Plugs, various types of Vibrators including those with Pearl Beads, G-Spot Stimulators and even those with a Remote Control so that you or your partner could dictate when and where you could be pleasured.
Many of these products are made from materials such as plastics, rubber or silicon but there are also ranges made from Metal or Glass if that gives you a different sensation or avoids allergy situations. Once again, depending on your preferences some of these could be used between you and your partner and in some cases used by just one person, especially as adding something extra to your masturbation time.
Strap on harnesses and strap on cocks can appeal to many, including straight, gay, lesbian or bi-sexual users.
Sexy PVC clothing for the women or Latex clothing and accessories for both women and men can add some massive sexual excitement to the bedroom. Always remember to also buy Silicon Lubricant to spray on the latex gear to get that high gloss look.
Douche products will help you feel cleansed and are especially if you are going to have any form of anal sex.
Kegel Balls and Ben Wa Balls give a great sensation and many doctors will praise their use for increased elasticity and improved bladder control.
Bondage or fetish gear can also provide the mild kink excitement that appeals to some and if new to that type of sex then explore the various clothing, ticklers, nipple rings and clamps, suctions pumps, along with clothing, whips, cuffs, neck collars or fetish sets that are available.
If you are undecided about what sort of things to buy also consider “Packs” that combine a variety of products that work well together. For example, there are First Timer Vibrator kits for the novice user, Valentines Day packs for her or for him, a Cock Enhancer pack, Wedding Anniversary kits, Getting you Girl into Anal kit, and Mild Bondage and Fetish kits to name a few.
We have looked at a snapshot of the Sexual Orientation of UK adults as well as how often people are having sex. From that information we discovered that pressures of the modern lifestyle along with stress and availability of time for having sex also play a part in the overall sexual awareness and sexual pleasure that the population are experiencing.
From there we have discussed a variety of affordable sex toys and sex aids that can add some fantastic additional pleasure and experiences toy your sex lives.
Let’s get out there and create better sex lives and see how we can change all those results the next time any Sexual Orientation and Sexual Satisfaction survey are done.
(Article: “Only a third of UK adults are satisfied with their sex life”; released Wednesday 21st June 2017)