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Rope Bondage: The Definitive Guide 2019

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Rope bondage can be one of the most loving, sensual activities that you can replicate with you partner or even apply to threesomes.

The feel of the rope straddling over your hands as you prepare to truss up a submissive knot on your lovers skin as the excitement and tension grows.

Bondage and learning to tie rope is a dedication of trust as well as passion and the way it brings people closer together by putting love and lust at the front of your sexual desires.

Rope bondage can be the best way to spend time with your lover.

Kink can be an escape from the real life as it offers an escape from stress and the real life work expectations that are put on us.

Rope bondage allows our lovers to express themselves artistically and sexually and gives people the confidence to grow.

 

 

When we first start to explore these areas and delve into the more kinky sides of our minds, it can feel scary to some as we are experiencing something we have not come to terms with and do not understand.

This is the ultimate guide to western rope bondage and it will help you explore the sexuality and your abilities with your rope skills so you can grow sexually and as a person.

Every one of us has come into rope bondage through different avenues and each road to walk on for this form of kink is always different.

 

 

Finding your Role

When you are starting to explore your kinky side it can be a bit daunting to know which role you would like to take or what role would fit your personality best.

There is a large spectrum of roles in BDSM and the multitude of human sexuality can never be condensed down into one category. Some people might feel that they are more comfortable moving from one role into another as a versatile.

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A sub might one day feel that they are ready to be controlled and dominated as a slave role and to take orders from their master.

Through experience you will find the role which is suited fo you. Keep an open mind on things and try out each role until you find what you are conformable with.

If you find you still have not found your role after numerous BDSM scenarios that is ok, most people do not like labels on themselves, for these people know that BDSM and bondage is a journey of sexual pleasure.

 

 

Rope Bondage

Bondage in any circumstance already plays a role in many peoples sex lives, but BDSM rope binding can be come the central play time for many. Some of us fantasize about spending the evening with our partners and tying them up.

We may like to use hand cuffs, having their feet or hands confined without movement. Although many materials can be used rope is often the preferred choice thanks to its versatility and the feel it gives on ones body.

amateur rope bondage

 

In BDSM rope is often used either nylon rope or regular rope to restrict a submissive’s movement for stimulation play and also works as a great way to keep your partner in that sexy restrictive position which you ravish them senseless.

There is no fast way to incorporate rope bondage into your life and finding out what turns you on is the most exciting part of the journey.

 

 

 

Communication and Limits

When it comes to bondage rope work people will have soft and hard limits, you will need to learn how to approach your limits or your partners limits without overstepping a boundary.

This can be difficult and those new to restraints should exercise caution when approaching limits.

Partners should develop a history of successful play and should be able to trust each other before they both agree to pushing each others boundaries.

bondage and communication

If you are the dom in the relationship, start by asking your submissive partner what they want to try and what their soft limits are. Try to understand what your subs approach to their limits are and what they stem from.

There is always something going on in your subs mind behind the scenes. When you are the master in a relationship you should be on the constant lookout for indications of uncomfortableness.

When approaching your partners soft limits you should develop skills to explore the boundaries of your submissive partner and be attuned to their needs and the mood of the situation.

Communication is Key

This may be a term you have heard before, but it is true. Communication is the key to a fulfilling sexual experience, it should be present throughout the entire exploration of rope bondage.

When you are taking your first adventure into the world of bondage, you may choose to go with someone new or someone more experienced you should be open, honest and straight forward about your exploration in this kinky for of sex.

 

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Talk about your desires and your fantasies, talk about what you don’t like and your boundaries and what concerns you. Tell your potential partner about your medical conditions you may have such as a sore shoulder or any recent surgeries you may have, if you are scared of small confined spaces.

Your partner in BDSM should always listen and if they have a problem with anything discuss you both have the option to walk away from the situation.

 

bondage safe word

 

After you have covered all topics of concern you can then move onto the fun part, talking about your deepest and darkest desires. Those dreams you have had about bondage that have brought you to this article in the first place.

Talk about your desires to be tied up, wanting to be gagged, bent over and fucked hard or being constrained with rope to the bedpost spread eagle.

The initial conversions is the best place to start with your boundaries, move onto your soft and hard limits. You should know you partners limits and they should know yours.

If you have a bad memory write them down and store them in a safe place so you don’t forget, make sure both of your boundaries are respected.

Lastly in communication you need to establish a safe word. This is word you can yell out during play so that everything can come to a halt. It is a signal to your dominant partner that you are in pain, feel uncomfortable or unhappy with the bondage situation.

 

When this word is spoken play should come to an immediate halt.

 

If you have multiple partners choose an easy to remember safe word. If you are using gags and other bondage toys where you are unable to speak, have a heavy object close by in which you can drop it hard on the floor as a signal that you want the play to stop.

A good dom will make sure that communication play the main role in any bondage situation. If at any time you feel that you are not being respected or listened too, bring out your safe word, your partner may not know that you have reached your limit unless you say so.

Whether your power lies win your role as a dominant partner or as your ability to give yourself up totally as a sub, the main message is that consent is the key and should be at the front of the scene.

 

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Rope Bondage Safety

If you are the dom partner it is best to get some first aid training as some things can happen out of the blue. The central message of any rope bondage play is that you should be able to get your sub out of any knot in a matter of seconds.

The rope should never be tied to tightly so that it cuts into the skin or cuts off the circulation blood. If you are not sure how tight is comfortable for your sub ask them to tighten their hand on yours when it gets to tight for their comfort.

 

rope bondage safety

 

There is always the risk of nerve damage through rope compression, if done excessively this can take weeks or months to heal so avoid using knots on joints which hold to much body weight.

An experienced rigger should be able to tie knots that can be undone quickly, they should be able to also have the ability to cut knots which are tied with wool, cord, string or other apparatuses.

  • You should also never tie the rope around the front of someones neck.
  • You should never leave someone alone while they are restrained, this is non negotiable in any circumstance.
  • You should not be inebriated or under the influence of drugs when you are the mod or sub in a session as it is always good to have your head on straight. Each person should be responsible for the safety of the other person.
  • You should keep all of your play gear and dungeon areas clean and sterile including all sheets, restraints, surfaces and floors. A safe and sanitary playroom is best for all people involved in BDSM.

 

How To Take Care of Your Bondage Rope

If you have just purchase a new piece of rope made of natural fibers the best way to keep the rope in tact is by tying a knot in each end.

If you have purchase nylon rope, our preferred method is to melt the ends as it creates a nice seal at the ends of the rope.

 

Choosing the Perfect Bondage Partner

What will you look for in a partner?

Even for experienced bondage players each session can bring up intense feelings and emotions. You will want to choose a partner where you can process these feelings.

The best way to start is to look for all the things you would like to find in a friend. You will need to find someone you would like to spend time with and someone you find trustworthy.

 

bondage partner

Look for a partner who is open and engaging while being stable and lucid.

 

One great way to find a potential partner is to let that person blindfold you and guide you around a public place. You can also go to a fetish BDSM club and tell that person that they will have complete control over you for an hour.

If it is working you will feel a little embarrassed and turned on. If its not working you may feel awkward or anxious. Try it both ways and see what works for you.

 

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Rope Bondage Lessons – 5 of The Best Basic Knots

If you are the dom bondage partner you will need rot learn basic knots before creating the desired half body and full body ties in bondage. If you don’t have the basics down you can look like a newbie and it can also be dangerous.

You need to learn these basic knots off by heart, we are assuming that when you are reading this you have zero knowledge on these basic knots, even if you already know a few of these lets start by refreshing your memory.

 

 

Tutorials on Bondage Rope Ties

Lark’s Head Knot

When this knot is tightened down it wont slide along the other rope it is tied too. It is what we like to call a construction knot as it gets tighter the harder you pull it.

  1. Take the middle of the rope in a loop
  2. Wrap it around your thumb and pull the long end through
  3. Just like the picture the knot can be slipped over the ends of the rope or be tied in the middle of the rope.

larks head knot

 


The Munters Hitch

This knot is used mostly for decorative displays or rope changing direction. You will need to keep steady pressure on the rope while tying it or it will fall apart.

  1. Start with the piece of rope you want to cross over.
  2. Bring the loop under the rope you are crossing
  3. Now bring it across and over the end of the same piece of rope you are using

munters hitch knot

 


Sommerville Bowline

This is a unidirectional knot which is suited for starting intermediate ties.

  1. Start the knot by grasping your length of rope in the middle, then wrap it around your partners wrist three times, make sure there is a little slack
  2. Once you have the wraps completed, take the ends and cross them perpendicularly
  3. Holding the short end wrap the long end around it. It is important to do it in the right direction
  4. Push two fingers through the large loop you just made and under all the wraps around the wrist
  5. Bend the short end backward and grasp it with the fingers that you just pushed through the loop. No pull that end back through the loop
  6. Now start to tighten the whole knot evenly

 

 


Wrists Behind

This should be a tie that is looser then average.

  1. Start by having your beautiful partner fold his or her arms behind the back like this. Wrap the middle or the rope around both wrists.
  2. Cross the middle end perpendicularly so that the rope has changed direction and is in line with the way the arms are laying
  3. Take the look end and tuck it through the natural opening created by the arms folded together and gently but firmly snug the tie down
  4. Make an overhand knot against this whole bundle.

 

 


Basic Hair Tie

Most areas like the torso and arms are the body parts that one would think of tying up, but one of the most overlooked areas is a woman’s hair when it is past shoulder length. Pulling a woman’s hair during sex with rope can be very sensual, are tope with more loose fibres will better grab at the hair.

  1. Grab a long length or rope to start which should be at minimum 16 inches (20cm) in length double over to 8 Inches (20 cm).
  2. Use a hair elastic to create a pony tail and they grab it firmly but gently. Pull the pony tail all the way through the larks head knot.
  3. Push the Larks Head up over the hair elastic at the base of the ponytail
  4. Fold the ponytail in half and pull the loop open
  5. Push the loop up and over the now doubled ponytail. The main line of the rope should be through the newly created middle.
  6. Pull it steady and always make sure you are tugging on the rope and not stray hairs.

 


 

Rope Bondage Step by Step – The Best 5 Intermediate Bondage Knots

 

Kneeling two-column leg tie

This is perfect when you want to get your partner into a submissive kneeling position so they have minimal movement. It has a nice wide band across the legs which makes it aesthetically pleasing for the dom.

  1. Begin with having your partner kneel and make wraps around their legs. Keep the wraps up near the thigh as to create space where the foot meets the leg.
  2. Finish up on the wrapping so you have about 35 cms (14 inches) left of the loop end. Then cross it with the free end.
  3. Now take the free end and tuck it down and wrap it around the other wraps on the other side
  4. Pull it up again and tighten it
  5. Push the loop over the final free end and tighten it a second time
  6. Tuck all of your ends in

Kneeling two-column leg tie

 

Kneeling two-column leg tie

 


Mens Chest Harness

This takes only one piece of rope and is followed by a pattern to pull it together.

  1. Capture the wrists of your sub using the wrists behind knot and come up over the right shoulder, the down through the arm pit to the back.
  2. Come across the back, up through the left armpit and over the left shoulder, and then back to the centre.
  3. Do a few wraps to keep it together
  4. Come up through the right armpit again, back across the chest and pull it through the left shoulder rope
  5. Come back under the right should rope.
  6. Form a quick munters hitch and go across the chest and through the left armpit to the back and tie it off.

 

 


The Finger Tie

This is a great way to bind the fingers of your sub while they are laying down.

  1. Wrap a Larks Head around the wrist and then come back through the middle.
  2. Split the ends and come around the thumbs. Make the bondage tight but not to tight to cut off circulation.
  3. After you come around the thumbs, have your sub spread their fingers and start to weave back and forth between the fingers
  4. Work all the way down until you get to the end and cross around the pinkies
  5. Adjust the ropes tightness as needed
  6. Work your way back to the thumbs, going back the way you came and tie back between the thumbs or the wrists, whichever you can reach comfortably

 


The Toe Tie

  1. First start with a tie under the knee but above the calf. You want the bulge of the calf to hold the loop in place. It should not be tight as you want to slip a few fingers through it. Next you want to come down to the big toe and make a wrap and then return to the calf loop, making this part snug.
  2. Repeat this process come down from the calf and loop to the second toe and return, then do the same for the third toe.
  3. Follow this all the way until you get to the forth toe. Forget about the last fifth toe.
  4. Come back with the rope to the ankle and make a big wrap around the ankle, pulling the strands into one bundle.
  5. Tie up both feet the same way.

 


Chest Harness for Women

This is a fu kinky knot to make a woman’s breasts stand up a little more perkier.

  1. Begin by pulling the rope around the body and back through the loop which is the middle of the rope.
  2. Come up and over the shoulder and down around the middle, crossing over and under then back up again over the opposite shoulder.
  3. Pull the top over the right shoulder and bring it up and under the horizontal wrap and the back of the left shoulder rope and make a knot to secure this area.
  4. Come around the front, under the arm and pull the rope from under and then inside to out. You can form a munters hitch here.

 

Aftercare For Your Bondage Partner

During sex play with bondage a submissive may reach a state called subspace. This is where the sub lets go of all attachments with cares and pain and reaches a level of bliss almost like a dream state.

When the sub comes down from this state their level of endorphins will drop and they may feel very exhausted.

There may be some after physical effects of bondage including bruises, cuts and rope burns. As the dom you can apply creams and provide the aftercare services your sub needs.

 

rope love heart

 

 

Exploring Sex Toys and Restraint

There are many ways to move forward from bondage with other bondage sex toys, you may decide that you eventually want to try soft limits with some vibrators or anal toys.

You will most likely hone your skills and though there are many fantastic guides for bondage you can always get creative with your dirty mind.

Try getting a fake vagina and using it on your male sub while he is tied up or allowing your lesbian bondage partner to use a strap on cock.

 


Glossary

Here is a list of jargon and phrases you will need to know before starting with BDSM and Bondage.

Total Power Exchange: This is a relationship where one person gives up their control consensually to another such as a mistress or master who has total authority over him or her. This is a mutual agreement between the two involved people for a certain period of time or a long term agreement.

Top: This can be a person who plays the dom role in a sexual situation. For gay men a top is someone who takes the top position during sexual activity which is an exclusively penetrative role.

Switch: A person who switches between top and bottom roles. This can also be known as versatile.

Subdrop: A euphoric state into which in which submissives can fall during an intense bondage session. After correct care this state or feelings can last for hours.

Submissive (Sub): A person who will take a passive role in a power exchange. Most of the time this is in reference to sexual acts though it may also be for service related roles.
Soft Limits: The boundaries a person makes in which their partner will acknowledge. Soft limits are less kinky activities and what he or she is comfortable with.

Slave: This is a person who likes BDSM and bondage and submits into this sexual lifestyle full time under his or her masters control.

Sensation Play: This is a BDSM play that acts on the sensations given to a submissive partner. This can be using utensils such as hot wax, ice, cold metal and other items that give sensations to a persons body.

Safe Word: This is a code word a submissive partner can use whenever the BDSM play becomes to much for them to handle. This is a word that stops play immediately and is non negotiable.

Rope Bunny: A person who will get heated and frustrated by being restrained by rope. These people are not naturally submissive but enjoy a good rope burn.

Rigger: This is a term that describes the person who likes to tie up others.

Master (Mistress): This is a person who lives and breathes the BDSM lifestyle full time. This is the person who takes the dominant role.

Hard Limits: These are the limits a person will not cross during BDSM sexual play.

Dominant (Dom): This is a person who likes to be sexually dominant and like the role of power and authority. This is the person who controls the sexual play and situations.

Daddy: A older person who takes the dominant role to one or more submissive partners. They will also offer support, emotional and sexual and be caring towards there partner.

Consent: This is an affirmative permission given in the code of conduct int he BDSM community and is well respected.

Collaring: This is a commitment to a long term relationship in a dom-sub relationship. There may be a formal ceremony where the dom will place a collar on the sub to seal the deal.

Bottom: A person who takes on the submissive role when required. With gay men the bottom who is on the receiving end of penetration.

Bondage: This is the practice of restraining a person so they become immobile.

Aftercare: This is when a dom partner will give the submissive mental and emotional support after BDSM sexual play.

 

 


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